Women love different men for different reasons, and some are drawn to the kind of man who appears to be totally cold. Just like an iceberg; hard and freezing to the touch, it often seems like these men have no feelings. Perhaps that is what makes them so attractive to many women who long to melt their frozen exterior and heat them up. Boyhood traumas, being told not to cry, and growing up in a ‘hard’ world turn many men into a chunk of frozen ice floating aimlessly through life. They are carved from glacial frigidness, drifting along the current of what it means to be ‘masculine’. But women can melt even the sharpest, coldest shards of ice with their hot, hot love.
[Cold love] Halina Lazarchyk
Women love different men, cheerful and joyful, intelligent and well-read, but for some reason especially passionately cold. It’s so hard to wait for these men to show feelings. But that’s probably why shes want to melt their ice and heat them with warmth. There is a whole cluster of such men in cinema to whom women from all over the world have given their hearts.
Psychologists say that most of these men have contracted the virus of “coldness” due to injuries sustained in their youth. They suffered some serious experiences, they could not cope with emotions. Decided that it would be best to hide them. Most likely, some kind of blatant injustice happened in their life, after which they became cold to others. In another way – rigid (psychological terminology).
Women generally find calm, collected men more attractive, and scientists now suggest they know the biology of why that is.
Investigations into what makes men desirable often focus on testosterone. The hormone is linked with masculine facial traits, such as larger jaws and heavier brows, and is typically associated with better long-term health. As such, it might at first glance make sense from an evolutionary point of view if women found testosterone-laden men especially attractive.
However, past studies have often revealed that men with high testosterone levels are not automatically appealing to women, who view such testosterone-laden men as having long-term drawbacks. For instance, the macho guys may lead a “player’s” lifestyle, or may also be bad parents.
Instead, human behavioral ecologist Fhionna Moore at the University of Abertay Dundee in Scotland and her colleagues focused on the stress-linked hormone cortisol. Persistently high levels of cortisol can suppress not just the immune system, but also reproductive function. As such, it would make sense if women preferred men with low cortisol levels — that is. Those who are not stressed out.